So here’s where I’m at with it ~
About 8 years ago, I met this guy. He was sweet, kind, had a good sense of humor, kind of a renegade, good set of friends, my parents liked him…I thought I’d found The Guy For Me. Shortly after we started seeing each other, we went through this huge crisis. It was a horrible, unstable, unsettling time for all of us. I relied on him a lot during that very trying time. He was strong when I needed strength, compassionate when I was crying and soothing when I got so angry I couldn’t see straight. I really believed that he would make everything all right again, and that we would come out of this stronger than ever. He went out there and defended me, spoke up to anyone who criticized me…He even picked a fight with someone who he thought had hurt me. Even got all of his buddies to back him up. I know he was protecting me, but after a while I felt like the fighting wasn’t making me feel any better, and I wasn’t sure he was fighting with the right person. I thought of breaking up with him, but something told me not to quit on someone who had sacrificed so much for me.
But then I started noticing that he was so busy fighting for me, that he wasn’t paying attention to me; he wasn’t working, so there was no money, he wasn’t paying attention to the children; their schooling & health care were being neglected. Then I found out that he had made some of the local shop owners angry, and so then they started charging me higher prices for things I needed every day. AND he gave out my phone number to all of his buddies, and now they were calling me at all hours for my time and my money. What was worse was that everything we stood for, and everything I believed in him for was crumbling around us…and we were now a punchline for jokes.
Now he just seems pathetic – I understand what he was trying to do, but he failed miserably in the process. I think it’s time for us to go our separate ways…
About 8 years ago, I met this guy. He was sweet, kind, had a good sense of humor, kind of a renegade, good set of friends, my parents liked him…I thought I’d found The Guy For Me. Shortly after we started seeing each other, we went through this huge crisis. It was a horrible, unstable, unsettling time for all of us. I relied on him a lot during that very trying time. He was strong when I needed strength, compassionate when I was crying and soothing when I got so angry I couldn’t see straight. I really believed that he would make everything all right again, and that we would come out of this stronger than ever. He went out there and defended me, spoke up to anyone who criticized me…He even picked a fight with someone who he thought had hurt me. Even got all of his buddies to back him up. I know he was protecting me, but after a while I felt like the fighting wasn’t making me feel any better, and I wasn’t sure he was fighting with the right person. I thought of breaking up with him, but something told me not to quit on someone who had sacrificed so much for me.
But then I started noticing that he was so busy fighting for me, that he wasn’t paying attention to me; he wasn’t working, so there was no money, he wasn’t paying attention to the children; their schooling & health care were being neglected. Then I found out that he had made some of the local shop owners angry, and so then they started charging me higher prices for things I needed every day. AND he gave out my phone number to all of his buddies, and now they were calling me at all hours for my time and my money. What was worse was that everything we stood for, and everything I believed in him for was crumbling around us…and we were now a punchline for jokes.
Now he just seems pathetic – I understand what he was trying to do, but he failed miserably in the process. I think it’s time for us to go our separate ways…
